Everyone has a story to tell so does Bindu Pariyar. Better known as Malika, Bindy or Hotty Bindy who once was the most popular strip dancer in Dallas. People have seen her pictures and videos all over internet but we thought she should have something to say so we approached her and decided to make her story. At first, she was very reluctant saying ‘I do not want anything to be published as there are many posts all over internet.’ Later she asked ‘what about all those nude and sex videos everywhere? Ok, fine, even if you publish my true story, what’s going to make the difference? People will read it, feel bad about me and then what?’ Her every argument was valid on her point of view. Despite all that she finally agreed to share her untold story which she has never done before publicly. Then we asked what about all those stories and numerous facebook pages and accounts? ‘Those all are fake’ she said.
‘I feel like crying every time I remember my childhood’ Bindu remembers her poverty stricken childhood in Western Nepal. Born in rural village at Hemja Kaski, she enjoyed dancing since childhood and taking part in every cultural programme and parent’s day function held at school. ‘It used to be great fun’ she recalls dancing in Lok dohori, kauda and rodhi. ‘I had been to different parts of the country for cultural show along with friends’ she shares her passion of dancing.
When she was just one year old, a man came as a savior to her family. He supported for her education till she completed her 12th from Gyanubaba School. Eventually, she came USA with him, little did she knew that the man she trusted so much would do this to her. Mr Tom Sewell, more than 30 years older than her was an avid trekker who used to visit Nepal every year, he was married to Bindu’s aunt, later he divorced her to marry younger one; Bindu’s cousin sister (Sita Pariyar).
He was still of her uncle till 2009 and was a nice guy who was paying her tuition from year one, but nobody knew the man had different plan on mind. Then things changed when Sita Pariyar left him. She adds ‘he said he wanted to kill himself but I consoled him. Tom showed me nude pictures and videos of cousin sister and blamed her for leaving for younger man. I thought it was all true but the story was quite opposite. She was forced to work in strip club and made money for him. He wanted to take me to the USA because he knew young and pretty girl can fetch more money. Now I realized why I did not listen to my sister then. Probably I was too excited to come to America. But I was already falling for his master plan.’.
‘My parents were poor and they thought Tom was a God for helping a poor kid like me and lie to my parents’. ‘How could not I believe the man whom I have known whole life?’ We trusted him and I signed all the papers he gave me. ‘America? Yes, I also really wanted to come but had no idea the price I had to pay for. Everything changed from bad to worse after arriving here’. She tells ‘ As I told you he got me here for education, hope for better life, help family, was so poor didn’t want see my family rotten in poverty. And interesting thing I knew the guy for 20 years. I never thought I would do something like that.
‘He promised me to fulfill my dream of becoming nurse and brought me here in K1 visa (fiancee visa) and married after 3 months of coming to USA. Me and my parents were so happy and we thought that I was going there for study not for being his wife and sex slave’, She adds ‘I first arrived in the USA in October 2010 in Montana and was thinking to work as a caregiver but Tom forced me to work in night club saying he had invested a lot on me to bring here. Then he brought me to Idaho then to bigger city Dallas in 2011.’
Why did not you protest? She answered ‘After 3 months of doing so I told him I wanted to go back to Nepal but he threatened to release my naked picture and video to my parents which scared me to death which resulted me to continue what I was doing. Moreover, he had all my papers and passport’. I had no idea how the system worked here and I had nobody to fall back upon. Even I did not know I could get help from police. It was different world for me. My life was hell back then’.
Isn’t it fair that he used you for money and you came here through him? She replied ‘I trusted him so much. My life was in his hand from the day one. I did not know he waited all those years to bring me here and to get done all these. After getting all the money back again I requested him to leave me alone but he kept on threatening me.’
But you had a comfortable life right? Earning big money and having good life? ‘Not at all’, she shrugs. ‘I was required to make 1000 dollars a night otherwise he would beat me with belt, make me drink his pee and poop on me. He used to sit home, drink every night while I go to work get my feet hurt, get naked for people’. She continues ‘ I worked 12 hours a day 5-7 days a week, He used to write down how much money I made and how many guys I need to have sex with (no money) just for his pleasure. He likes that’. I only danced for money. He made me drunk shot sex video then used to blackmail me. I was scared what he was going to do so I just kept quiet and doing. But I was suffering from his abuse and I ended up in hospital 5 times that I finally left him. He invited young college guys and his friends to have sex with me, I thought better to have sex with other than him at least they don’t beat me and after sex they will leave me alone. I tried to kill myself. I was kept in psychiatric hospital so many times .Went did counseling took medication. Now I left him and trying to live my life with a better guy and also enrolled in a college to pursue nursing degree and have a puppy named pumpkin which makes me smile.’
But in all those pictures and videos you seem like you were having fun and enjoying your work? ‘Yes, you can think so but I had to fake it all. That was my work. And many pictures were also shot for my workout modeling competition. After first few months I was used to it and I had no other option than doing it.’
‘He was living on me, I used to make 800 to 3000 dollars per night and he kept all of it except maybe 10% which I sent back home to my family. I could not bear all those and the physical abuse. Finally, once I was in Dallas I found a shelter and filed a divorce in 2012 but he requested again to be with him for 3 more years and he would go and retire. I was not going to be fool anymore. But he threatened me if I leave him he would post all my nude pictures and videos on internet which he was filming. I did not follow him and now everyone sees what is online.
Looking back at past, how do you see your life? She says ‘just a bad dream which I would like to forget’ Now Its already going to be two years I left him and it is like the greatest relief of my life. I quit dancing the day I left him and now I am studying hard to be a nurse, recently joined a college and doing pre-requisite course for nurse’ What’s plan now? ‘My life is for my family and the happiest moments are those even if I could do something for my poor parents and family back home’.
Talking about Tom, she had not been in touch since she left him. ‘I am thankful to him for all the help he did in Nepal.’ ‘Will you be back to dancing business as your nursing degree doesn’t pay much, in fact you can make your one year nursing salary in a month here’? She replies ‘Tired of it. That’s why I am working my ass off to get a degree. I have found good man who loves and takes care of me. If I didn’t have him and no place to live I might have. It’s not bad but it’s hard work, needs a lot of effort to get naked for many guys. I better work on my degree first. Khana basna ra family Lai sukhi dekna paye malai jun job in thik cha’
‘And I have so much to do beside get naked’
You surely do. All the best.
(The article is completely based on, in conversation with Ms Bindu Pariyar and covered by ‘The Gundruk Post.’ Mention the source if you reproduce the article)